✨ The essence of Madre Soul has an official international holiday. This is why I started this in the first place. :) My grandmother and my mother's tenacity and independence shine very brightly. Both never waited for permission to go after what they wanted. Their example has shown me that sovereignty is embodied. All the women before me are true warriors and trailblazers. 💐
While we were born from beautiful mother’s we also hold a unique legacy of our own and we are responsible for shifting and changing to more elevated versions of ourselves.
I remember a time in my life when I was often told not to ask for more or to keep my desires in check. I was a child and there was a lot of restriction from my mother, rightfully so she was a single mom of three children and had working low-paying jobs, often overnight shifts. This is the first memory I have of me feeling so much compassion for my mother, and thus it’s my first signs as an empath. This is when my people pleasing patters started and when I became super considerate to the point of not asking for much to not burden anybody.
There was a breakthrough though at some point in my life a few years ago when I craved to write, dance, and move my body more often and creatively. So much so, that I left a big job and went full on for with this 4 month. I took a break and jumped into a creative writing class and started taking dance classes. At the time I was seeing a therapist and she asked me ‘why do you want to live like a Trust child? (I had no idea what a Trust child meant). I didn’t even know people had something like that going on. The Therapist even went on to say something like…”don’t you want to own homes one day? don’t you want more? Also, why do you have to move your body so much?”
Her questions brought a lot of self-doubt. But I’m so glad I left her.
This therapist was off, not me. :) I say that with a lot of certainty, more so than ever before. Later that week, I wrote her back: “thank you for your time and I’m not going back to the next session.” Today, I have a different relationship with therapy and I’m so glad I left that therapist years ago. I don’t question the decision I made to leave her.
The journey of healing can feel incredibly daunting, especially when we're conditioned to think about it constantly 'working on myself.' But what if we shifted that perspective to celebrate the beauty of now? and celebrating what is and that it’s totally okay to be where you are even if you know it’s not the best place 🌼 we have to see all of it through.
My thoughts may not always be positive, but I’m learning. I’ve come to understand that my desires and wants are whispers of my soul that deserve to be heard, when I don’t listen to it, I get things like auto-immune disorders, more so in the last couple of years, it quickly manifests in my body.
The time in my childhood when I was told not to ask for more or to keep my desires in check is no longer the version of me today. While I’m not that bold of a woman either (yet), my mother and grandmother hold that crown. I am learning to follow those gentle nudges from within but I move slow. I’m embracing the idea that these desires lead me toward a life that is more fulfilling and true to who I am. 🌈💪 But it’s not that easy for me.
So, as we celebrate this Mother's Day, let’s honor our Mother’s, no doubt, ourselves too, acknowledge our unique paths, and remember that each challenge, and moment is a step forward towards the life we truly desire.
Thank you for being part of this beautiful journey with me! I wanted to leave you with this message today: You are unique, you have a unique legacy, and you can honor all the beautiful women in your life. Your mother, grandmother, tias, anybody who raised you. And at the same time you are unique and valuable. Your needs are going to be different than other people, and that’s okay. Your values are different, you have a different story, and therefore you have a very unique legacy. 🌼
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